The British love to have me, But they usually give me the silent treatment

I'm white, black or red-headed, My favorite spot is on top of your face, But don't you dare pinch me, Or I'll burst in tears and leave you a scar to remember!

I strut with pride and flashy eyes, Yet people shame me for my willy's size

Toxic is my trait, My husband is always late, I'm pretty dark mind you, But scarlet portrays me too

When you hear or read me, you don't understand. But you speak and write me with ease